Truth about the bedroom lies

From ages we have been told to stick to one fact – be ‘brutally honest’ with your partner in all aspects of life.

However, do we all follow that golden rule? Before you start feeling guilty, allow me to tell you that you are not the only one living with white lies in your relationship. The place where people feel most comfortable lying is their bedroom.

If women lie about their vital stats, men also fudge about the numerous sex partners they have had. May be it helps them in keeping the romance alive in their den. So here are some of the truths that most of the people prefer keeping under the wraps.

Fake it!
From once in a while to all the time, most couples fake an orgasm to avoid upsetting their partner. This is pretty common among the fairer sex.

Revati Prasad, who works with a Noida- based MNC says, “Like all other girls, I spoke at length about lovemaking with my friends before getting married. But when it came to practicing it, I literally got cold feet. It’s been eight months, but it’s rare that I reach an orgasm. I find intercourse a painful act. Because of hesitation and the fear of rejection, I keep mum. I think it would affect my husband’s ego if I tell him that he fails to satisfy me.”

Dr Sanjay Chugh, a psychiatrist suggests, “At times men also fake an orgasm, but it’s mainly a female dominated phenomenon. There can be several reasons like guilt, fear of getting pregnant, no desirability for the partner or painful intercourse. Not necessarily you reach the big ‘O’ all the time, but faking it for long to save your partner from embarrassment is not the right thing to do in bed. Talking about the issue frankly will certainly help.”

I forgot the count
Most of the men consider women as extremely possessive beings. Therefore, they generally manipulate the number of women they have shared ‘good’ times with.

Rakesh Aggarwal, a marketing executive tells, “No women love competition, therefore I make no effort to bother my girls. It’s my ninth affair in four years, but I think I am really serious this time. She is my colleague in office. She does know that I am not a virgin, but I am in no mood to tell her that I have made love to almost half a dozen women.”

Dr Kamal Khurana, a relationship expert says, “It’s not only about women, men also don’t think highly of women who have had several sex partners in their past. This is the main factor why people prefer to lie about their ex partners. It’s definitely a personal choice, but keeping your partner in the absolute dark is unfair. If not completely, try to share some of details of your past with your mate.”

It was fun honey!
You were in between the act and your partner pushed you to try a new position. You found it awkward and it wasn’t that pleasurable too. Still you preferred to say, ‘it was great’. Many people can relate to this situation. Reema Sinha, a content writer reveals, “Me and my guy were on a weekend break. I was really looking forward to some rocking action in bed. It was all going good before I found myself in a funny position. I think he was enjoying our new sex position, but I burst out into laughter, and my man was very disturbed seeing my reaction. So, I decided that I will let him experiment the way he wants.”

Dr Sanjay Chugh explains, “It’s a great thing to try out new ways to attain a high point with your partner in bed. Nobody likes to stick to a monotonous sex routine for too long. But you need to be considerate towards you partner’s comfort too. Keep in mind that it becomes difficult for women to attain the big ‘O’ in certain positions.”

Sizeable issues
Who goes to bed with a measuring tape in hand? And that makes it easy for everybody to boast about their vital stats.

Chitra Rawat, a media person says, “Men simply adore women who are blessed with a nice cleavage and my boyfriend is no different. Thanks to all the inventions in terms of lingerie, it is easier to look a size bigger. I think it’s fair enough to misguide him this much, if it gives him a sexual high. The only problem I face is, I can’t go for lingerie shopping with him.”

“Most of the men have a fascination for women with fuller figures. And if you know how to take advantage, than there is nothing like it. At times men also brag about their size. It’s better not to make claims that you may not be able to sustain for long. It may cause embarrassment to both of you,” tells Dr Khurana.

Virginity values…
Virginity still seems to be a big deal when it comes to marriage. No matter how modern people claim to be, they still want a virgin while getting married.

Suparna Gupta, an architect confesses, “I have been in an intense relationship in my past, because of his family issues we couldn’t take it forward. Now I am getting married to another guy. With my sexual behavior, he might get to know that I am not a virgin. Therefore I plan to act extra cautious, I cannot afford to ruin my future because of my past. Sometimes I wonder, is it really a big deal.”

“It’s certainly not an uncommon situation. We live in a modern society and pre-marital sex is not an alien term now. However, it’s still a hush-hush issue. So if you think your partner will not be able to digest the truth about your past, then it’s better to keep it to yourself. Still it’s always advisable that if you have had a sexual relationship, you should go for a medical check up before you tie the knot,” Dr Chugh concludes.