Searching for Romance

Searching for Romance……we all have a romantic idea of Romance………this idea is created by years of thoughts that enter the mindspace, the seed, germinates, grows into a flower and wilts……when the seed is sown and the flower of Romance grows, our tree of life becomes the tree of Romance. We would be happy, with our romantic notions, ideas and its manifesting into this beautiful tree of Romance in our heads and in our minds. The turning of this Romance, into expectations, of ourselves and others, becomes a different story.

We go through life, befriending people, we assign roles to ourselves and to others; soon we start to project the picture and image of this romance on to those people, life becomes a stage as we act our part and want others to act their part, we become the hero of our stories.  The role we assign to the others, including the romantic lover, or beloved, inherits the script of our Romance. So begins this act, there are times when the other person or persons are right on and are playing their part as we had envisioned; life looks beautiful, we sing and dance with joy. The moment passes, what if the next moment, is not in line with our thoughts……..a conflict arises, within, and spills outward.

We look for answers, "drop it", "move on", "find another", are good advice, yet not the answer, as we replay the script over and over again, the act does not change only the actors. Here is an opportunity, to really take the time to un-peal, see and discard our own layers of expectations. Each layer will come off, as beliefs, ideas and conditioning; through this process we watch out that we are not replacing one set with another.

Soon the image and the envisioning will begin to loose its hold on us and our life. An inner joy will become our guide, it is as if someone has cleared the vision glasses, and suddenly each moment and each person becomes brilliant in "what it is", and not clouded by "what it should be".

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Tu Eres Mi Otro Yo – (You Are My Other Self). A Mayan concept of unity, we learn to be ourselves through our relationships with others.

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