Men Say I Come Across As Too Controlling – What Do I Do?
Given what I do for a living I come across as a powerful woman, often criticized by the men I date as “too controlling.” Is there a way to maintain the integrity of my personality without being perceived as too controlling?
Let me assure you that you are not alone. As a matchmaker and dating coach to powerful men and women, I come across this issue frequently.
As a powerful woman, how do you feel when others try to control you? Once you put yourself in a guy’s shoes, it’s easy to appreciate that women who act controlling tend to repel men.
Self-empowered women, on the other hand, magnetize men. Your integrity lies in being a self-empowered woman more so than a woman who exerts control over others, including men.
So how do self-empowered women act?
1. They tend to be comfortable in their own skin, making those around them comfortable as well.
2. Empowered women tend to have a strong sense of self, allowing them to be accepting of themselves and others.
3. I'll leave you with one final thought: Self-empowered women realize that their true power lies in their ability to control their own thoughts and actions, leaving little need to control others.
Jasbina Ahluwalia is an Indian-American attorney turned entrepreneur, Relationship Expert, Radio Show Host and Matchmaker / Dating Coach.
She is the Founder & President of Intersections Match, the only Elite Personalized Matchmaking & Dating Coaching Firm in the country serving Selective Singles of South Asian descent Nationwide in the U.S.
Jasbina is also the host of Intersections Talk Radio, a monthly holistic lifestyle show – conversations with published authors/experts on relationships and health and wellness.