I Don't Want To Come Across As Needy – Think I Have A Wall Up – What Do I Do?
In the past when I’ve been involved in a relationship, I feel like I’ve lost my identity in the process. These days I’m very careful to not seem needy, but I’m worried that I’ve got a wall up. Can you help?
It sounds like your behavior may be originating from a fear of rejection. Consider shifting your focus to strengthening your sense of self-worth.
A strong sense of self allows you to risk emotional vulnerability without risking your self-worth.
You sound like an introspective person. This quality will serve you well in finding and maintaining a great relationship. Why not make a list of all your other great qualities? This may help build up your sense of self.
Building intimacy in a relationship involves emotional vulnerability. There's just no way to get around it. You can safely allow yourself to be emotionally vulnerable once you believe that you are strong enough to handle any outcomes.
Your power lies within you.
Jasbina Ahluwalia is an Indian-American attorney turned entrepreneur, Relationship Expert, Radio Show Host and Matchmaker / Dating Coach.
She is the Founder & President of Intersections Match, the only Elite Personalized Matchmaking & Dating Coaching Firm in the country serving Selective Singles of South Asian descent Nationwide in the U.S.
Jasbina is also the host of Intersections Talk Radio, a monthly holistic lifestyle show – conversations with published authors/experts on relationships and health and wellness.