That Thing Where You Feel Forced To Choose Either Silver Or Gold For Life

It was impressed on me at a young age that serious jewelry-wearers either wear gold or silver. Being a fan of furry jewelry myself, I had a hard time picking, but it seemed that cool girls wore silver. So, I had a silver ball-chain choker and a pair of silver smiley-face stud earrings. I chose a silver class ring, and when it came time to pick out my very first piece of “real” jewelry when I started college, I picked a silver Elsa Perreti for Tiffany necklace.

But then, I moved to New York, and it seemed like every cool-looking woman had a gold chain around her neck, gold hoops in her ears, and stacks of gold rings on her fingers. And so, I switched (that ball chain was starting to look more black than silver anyway). I wore my gold initial necklace and gold circle studs dutifully, until one day, I came across a ring that actually made me feel nauseous because it was so pretty. It had two half-circle sapphires surrounded by a halo of diamonds — like The Heart Of The Ocean, but Margiela-ized. It was the most beautiful ring I’ve ever seen, and I wanted it more than I wanted any single piece of fashion in my life. But, I hesitated. Because it was silver.

Which, of course, is all so, so stupid, because of course there’s no such thing where you have to be a “silver girl” or a “gold girl,” and the idea that you have to choose a team is as ludicrous as only eating sausage breakfast sandwiches when you could eat bacon sandwiches, too (or both together in the same sandwich!). But Google “are you a gold or a silver person” and you’ll get 63,600,000 results trying to parse the personalities of either side. And in my job, “mixing metals” somehow always gets parsed as a dangerous style move.

Long story short, I wear that silver ring now every day, and I wear it with my rose-gold watch, and my yellow-gold necklace, and I might even pair it all with a gunmetal clutch this holiday season. In the spirit of not letting a style rule as dumb as gold vs. silver hinder your ability to live, we’re showcasing a few women who’ve already diversified.

A gold logo, and silver zipper pulls.

Photographed by Victoria Adamson.

Gold earrings and a silver skirt.

Photographed by Victoria Adamson.

Gold bracelets on the right hand and silver bangles on the left.

Photographed by Victoria Adamson.

Silver shoe buckles and gold bag hardware.

Photographed by Victoria Adamson.

Silver jacket and gold cuffs.

Photographed by Victoria Adamson.

Silver anklets and bag logos, and gold rings and bracelets.

Photographed by Victoria Adamson.

Gold chains and rings, silver sunglasses and jacket hardware.

Photographed by Victoria Adamson.

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