Men love to fantasize about their lady love and they just adore a woman who plays out their dream fantasies in the intimate confines of the bedroom.

Fantasising is an essential part of love-making and couples who have a fulfilled sex life will agree that they cater to their innermost desires. Psychotherapist Dr. Arvinder Singh explains, "Fantasising doesn't mean that men want the girl in real. It's like a one night stand with their lady love where they just want to explore numerous possibilities, moving away from the ordinary. Fantasy helps a man attain the unattainable and he gets the feeling that he can be with a new woman every time."

So here are the 10 women men fantasize about:

1. English teacher:
It is the most commonly found pinup poster in a man's room. Women dressed as teachers holding a stick and ready to spank a petulant boy is the favourite dream act for a man. Be it the adolescent Rishi Kapoor in Mera Naam Joker or the Summer of '69, men have always fantasised about their gorgeous high school English teachers. "In your teens, if a man gets to meet a hot and experienced woman it's a major testosterone boost. Moreover English teachers are the ones who are best dressed, and most of the times in saucy Western outfits," says art designer, 25-year-old Kamlesh.

"It's in their adolescence that a man experiences attraction towards an elder woman. In between the age group of 12-16 years they face a psychological connection towards their teachers. It's like the first taste of the secrets tucked away in the adult world," opines Dr. Samir Parekh, a psychologist. Dr. Singh adds, "This kind of behaviour is very colonial in nature. People in India always think that a person who can speak English properly is superior to them. So if this quality is present in a woman she will obviously become desirable to her beau."

2. Nurses:
The Virgin mobile ad which shows a group of men keen to get themselves touched by a ravishing nurse stands testimony of this undying fantasy in men. From the day they are born, men are nursed by their mothers, so the whole concept of being taken care of remains a favourite pleasure in their mind space. "Guys never grow up and they want their partner to treat them like a child and fulfill all their needs. They want to be taken care of, loved and cuddled. Even though women look great in a nurse's costumes, I think it's all about love at the end of the day and the feeling of passionate security that is symbolic with this fantasy," says senior communication executive, 25-year-old Dev.

"Nurses stand as a metaphor of affection, care and support which completes the human desire of overall well being. You see life in a more content and beautiful manner," opines Dr. Jintendra Nagpal, a psychologist. Dr. Singh adds "Men have an animal extinct which treat womens as a sexual object. If they are scantily dressed it's a turn on for obvious reasons. On the other hand, if she is fully clad then the fascination is about what lies underneath. In this case it's the later. The mystery of the unknown is the biggest sexual thrill that a man is turned on by."

3. Playmates:
Naked women with sculpted curves, perfect facial features and bootylicious celebs like Pamela Anderson and Carmen Electra are every guy's perfect fantasy. Playboy's playmates are every man's secret fantasy. "Attraction to a Playmate is obvious for every guy. While reaching puberty, young men are desirous to experience things which they are still too young to atually face. The only tools that are available to them in India are magazines like Playboy or Debonair. The fascination starts from there and continues till the time they are matured adults. The visual stimulation factor of these chiselled bodies coupled with the erotic content in these adult magazines is the secret passage connecting boyhood with manliness." says Amar, a 23-year-old film editor.

"A person's sexual thought process is very individualistic in nature and can't be generalised. However, over exposure of these women on the net, television and print leads to the male mind being increasingly pre-occupied with these stimulating thoughts and pictures. The attraction begins from there. Also Playmates always pose in interesting costumes like a saucy rabbit suit, which makes them all the more attractive as sexual objects," explains Dr. Nagpal.

Sex therapies, Viagra or energy pills, yoga classes etc ... you may have tried countless ways to boost your sexual performance. Regular exercise can boost your performance in bed.

What not try routine exercises that can add spark to your sex life? Several studies have shown that fit adults have a more electrifying sex life than individuals who lead sedentary lifestyle.

Exercise not only piques sexual desire, but also makes sex more enjoyable. It enhances sexual functioning and increases testosterone levels in both men and women, which ensures a better sex life. We bring you a few simple (s)exercises that will not only enhance your performance in bed but also let you enjoy the act like never before.

Pelvic lifts : One of the most common and important exercises, it improves sexual performance by strengthening the pelvic area. It also helps in evoking powerful sexual feelings and enhancing your endurance. Vijaya Shetty, a clinical pathologist and a gym-ball trainer elucidates, "During any floor exercise, we train the core muscles and when a same thing is repeated again, it strengthens the body part being worked upon. As for sexual benefit, it's a fact that a strong body can sustain for long, so more the endurance of your pelvic muscles, the more you'll enjoy the prolonged act."

Technique : Lie on your back with your knees bent and slightly apart, feet flat on the floor and arms at your side. Inhale clenching in your stomach and hips and lift the pelvic from the floor until your back is straight. Hold this position for 10 seconds and exhale as you lower your body. Repeat this at least 4-5 times for desired results.

Another pelvic raise could be where you lie down on the bed and as you inhale, you raise your legs to a 90 degree angle. Then while exhaling, you pulse them towards the ceiling. For those, who can't take their legs up to this angle, they can just make an L-shape angle and push their legs upwards along with a proper breathing technique, thus making the abdomen and pelvic area very strong.

Kegel Exercise : Many might not know about the 'secret' muscles that are active during sex and by strengthening these, couples can enjoy intense sex. Kegels are very safe and simple and work on the entire pelvic floor area. Neesha Bukht Choksy, fitness trainer and a dietician confirms, "Kegel is basically a contraction of the internal muscles attached to the pelvic bones, so it tightens the vaginal muscles, helping women gain better control, prolong sex and reach orgasm more easily. It tightens the entrance of the uterus, which evidently enhances your gratification level during sex."

Technique : Contract your pelvic muscles and inhale as you squeeze (as though stopping urine), hold them for 5 seconds and release as you exhale. Start with just 10 or 20 squeezes. The best part is that you can do Kegel nearly anytime, anywhere. Try them while having your meals, sitting at your desk, talking to people or watching television, do at least 100-200 squeezes a day. It's very effective for women in their post delivery stage, as it tightens the loosened muscles."

Butterfly Stretch : Another important part that works actively during sex is the inner thigh area. During a butterfly stretch, the emphasis is on strengthening the inner thighs to make them flexible. Vijaya explains, "Apart from greater flexibility, as you stretch out your legs during this exercise, it's almost a similar position that you have during a sexual act."

Technique : Sit on the floor with your feet together, as the souls touch each other and the knees are kept apart. Try and take your feet as close as you can to your hips and use your elbow to push down your knees below, so that your inner thighs are under pressure.

Cat Pose : In addition to the lower area of the body, the abs and abdomen are also highly functional during sex. Cat Pose works well for the abs as throughout the exercise, you flex your abs. Neesha adds, "As you round your spine in both an inward and outward position during this exercise, you strengthen your abs a lot many times. Simultaneously, it also works on your back."

Technique : Lie down on the floor, arch your back with your head and abs dangling down (inward position), pull your abs inside to make them look nicely arched, and ensure that your belly is not hanging loose. Then reverse the pose by rounding the other way with your abs elevated and stretched out (outward position. In both the positions, you are on your fours (hands and feet) and the abs area is flexed.

Superman Pose : A gratifying sexual act needs a fit body and the lower back forms an essential area that needs to be stable. The Superman Pose works mainly on your lower back, as this is the most active body part for maintaining various postures. Vijaya explains, "As you are holding all fours (hands and feet) going against gravity, the full load to maintain the position makes the back muscles strong. If you're lower back has any problem, you'll frequently shift around to other side to be comfortable, so this exercise helps a lot and lets you enjoy more."

Technique : Lie down on the floor, place your hands in an upfront position, and raise the upper portion of the body as much as you can without putting any strain on any of the muscles. You can also raise your feet, so that only central part of your body is on the floor. It strengthens your lower back area.

Cardiovascular Workouts : Since sex is an act of endurance, improving cardiovascular fitness with exercises like walking, running, cycling or swimming helps both partners perform longer. Neesha states, "Cardio exercises help in improving blood circulation and works on the overall body muscles. For, women who stay dormant at home, these cardio exercises are really helpful, as it activates the entire body muscles. Cardio workouts also keep the heart and arteries healthy, thus reducing the risk of erectile dysfunction by ensuring a good flow of blood to the genital organs."

Technique : Anything such as running, cycling, jogging and swimming that ups your heartbeat rate is useful. Practice the cardio workouts for at least 30 minutes in a day. Apart from ensuring proper blood circulation to all body parts, it also tends to warm up your body. Factors like age, ailments, breathing rate and clinical history must be considered before practicing any cardiovascular exercise.

Regular Combo workouts : To have a satisfying sex experience, the body in totality needs to be fit. Hence, once can't ignore the benefits to be derived from routine exercises like crunches combined with push-ups and sit-ups. These not only help in a better physical appearance, but help in achieving better endurance. Neesha says, "The combo of these three regular exercises is really helpful, as it works on your shoulders, chest and abdominal area, all of which are active during sexual intercourse. By strengthening these muscles, you add to your stamina, which further adds to prolonged and more pleasurable sex."

Technique : Crunches in particular works on the upper and lower abdominal area by tightening them and adding more strength. Do at least 3 sets of 10 each for crunches. Push-ups and sit-ups are more relevant for men, as they need to be strong with their arm muscles. Do at least 4 sets of 10 each for sit-ups and push-ups, taking a little break between the two workouts.

What does dating a married man and devouring hot chocolate fudge have in common?

Both taste devilishly good, but both are sinfully bad! Yet, what is it about a married or the so-called 'committed' man that attracts women? Is it the thrill of being the 'other woman'? Or just the promise of love?

We explore...

Dr Kamal Khurana, a marriage and relationship counselor explains, "Women who fall for married men are usually seeking attention and emotional support. Since married men seem to be more experienced and mature, they get attracted towards them.

Owing to their experience, married men understand the emotional needs and desires of women better than their single counterparts. However, men usually get attracted to other women as a result of a deficiency or a lack of satisfaction (emotional/sexual) in their present relationship. "

Being the 'other woman'
Dating a married man could probably stigmatise you with many condemnable titles and may not be an easy experience to endure, for being the 'other woman' entails a lot of sacrifices. If you have convinced yourself that his family would never come to know about it, think again. If they do, you would have to deal with the guilt of inflicting emotional pain on his spouse and kids, besides hurting yourself. It's important to consider that there are many people involved in your relationship, than just the two of you.

Also, dating a man who's married may entail many restrictions such as not being seen in public places together or being with him only when he can find free time away from his family or sneak out and meet you. Even more difficult can be living with the bitter truth that you are sharing him with his wife.

Samvedna Thakur (name changed on request), 27, who works in an advertising agency in Delhi claims, "I have been dating a married man for the last two years. We work in the same office. I've tried to break up with him several times but have failed in doing so. I am aware of the consequences if his wife finds out about our relationship. I also know that I am his second priority, but I am so emotionally attached to him that I'm not even being able to find an eligible man for myself and get married."

Agreeing with Samvedna, Rashi (name changed on request), who is a marketing professional in Delhi adds, "I am dating a man who I know through work. We have been together for a year. Recently, he confessed to me that he's married and is not happy with his present relationship. He said he doesn't want to cheat on me, but can't divorce his wife either. I've been trying to forget him since then and call off the relationship, but I am not being able to do so."