For the past three years, the magazines Shape and Men’s Fitness have teamed up to do an annual sex survey. This year’s effort has focused on love in the Internet age and asked some "digital questions" which reveal interesting information about how social media is affecting not just our lives, but our love lives. 1,200 men and women participated in the survey.
It turns out that Facebook may just be some sort of aphrodisiac. Communicating via social networking, instant messaging and texting are said by both men and women to lead them to the bedroom faster. The survey found that 80 percent of women felt relationships lead to sex more quickly since it is so easy to stay connected. Fifty-eight percent of the men stated that flirting over Facebook, texts and Gchat helped them get women into the sack sooner.
Does digital communication intensify the feelings we have in our relationships? Do those lovey-dovey text messages increase our anticipation and naturally pave the way to the bedroom sooner?
Whatever the case, the survey found out that only 38% of the women said they had actually slept with a partner sooner than they otherwise would have due to a textual relationship. So, 80% felt it hastened things but only 38% said they did it. The proof is in the pudding?
Certainly the way we communicate is changing. Most communication between couples is now happening by text instead of phone according to the survey with men saying they texted 39% more often than they called, and women reporting that they texted 150% more often than phoning.
That doesn’t seem surprising when 65% of respondents said they had been asked out via text message and 49 percent through a Facebook message. And how personal is this digital communication? 43% of women and 27% of men reported at least one instance of getting dumped via text. Getting dumped by text; now how personal is that? I look down at my Blackberry and read, "It’s not you; it’s me." Hmmm, how do I text "B.S."?
Before anybody does any communicating, 70 percent of women and 63 percent of men will use social media tools and Google to screen potential dates. Should I include the email address of my parole officer? Maybe references are important to any woman checking me out.
However, once the dating starts, 72 percent of women admitted in the survey to looking through a current partner’s ex-girlfriends’ Facebook pages. What? Men are handing out a list of ex-girlfriends? Now there’s a recipe for disaster. Never admit to anything. The current one is the only one and any previous ones were just insignificant lead-ups to the right one, that is, the current one. That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.
A few surprises in the survey?
76 percent of women said they would look at their partner’s e-mail account if it was left open. Sixty-nine percent of men admitted to the same thing. Really? Now here I was thinking you were honest… [as I look in your Inbox for incriminating evidence of other men]!!!
Surprise #2: Apparently, some people don’t know when enough is enough. The survey asked what they would do if they received a call or text during sex and 5 percent said they would glance at the phone to see who’s calling and one percent said they would stop to answer the phone. Gee, thanks. Here I was thinking I was a super stud muffin and it ends up I may only be distracting you until something or someone more interesting comes along. Ha!
The digital age is upon us. Faster connections, faster break-ups, possibly less intimacy. Or is this a different kind of intimacy? Now, as I lovingly gaze into your eyes while whispering sweet nothings… Oops! [I hold up a finger in a gesture to ask for a pause] "Hold that thought!" [I pull out my vibrating phone to check the latest message from somebody other than you]
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The issue of Shape currently on newstands features the results of the latest survey.
ABC News – Jan 26/2011 (story and video)
Shape, Men’s Fitness Survey Says Social Networking Leads Couples to Bed Sooner