This article was last updated on April 16, 2022
Love! Ah, what does one say – it’s like a cool breeze on a hot, muggy summer night, a magical droplet from the sky, a warm kiss from a lover, a hug from a buddy. Although, the experience may be very divergent, what’s certain is that love means different things to different people.
Hues of love:
How do I get this done love: Some people experience love as a game to be played with other people’s emotions. The desire is to gain control over a partner through clever calculation. People who experience this kind of love have multiple love interests where they are in complete control. Lying, cheating and deception are common for these people as it is part of the game. For people who experience such love, it is satisfying to outwit a partner and exploit his or her weak spots.
Madly, deeply, irrevocably in love: Some people experience love with a lot of passion, intimacy and intensity. Here the love has a strong sexual and emotional component. People who experience love this way want to be emotionally and physically close to their romantic partners and tend to idealize love. Such love is marked by passion as well as compassion (kindness and consideration). This kind of love is best viewed as romantic, passionate love – the type that creates excitement at the beginning of a new relationship.
Obsessed, possessed love: For some people, love is being out of control! It turns one’s life upside down and results in a complete loss of one’s identity. People who experience this kind of love fall in love quickly, but their love tends to consume them, and is likely to burnout even before it gets the chance to mature. Such love is often marked by extreme delusions, rash decisions and vulnerability.
Steady slow love: Some people experience love as a gradual and slow process. When love is like this, getting to know a potential partner comes before having intense feelings for that person. Falling in love requires genuine liking and understanding and it develops slowly over time. It is often compared to the love that one has for a friend. In fact, people who experience this kind of love often fall in love with their friends.
Nurturing love: For some people, love is taking care of a person. It is the overwhelming desire to look after a partner like one would after a child or a parent. Such love is attentive, caring, compassionate and kind – an altruistic type of love.
Logical love: However oxymoronic it may sound, but there are some people who take a practical approach to love. It is a clear-cut way of thinking based on common sense and reason. People who experience this kind of love tend to pick a ‘suitable’ mate after much deliberation and thinking. Practical concerns underlie this type of love.