Married Life: The Blame Game

Marriage is not always a smooth road and truth be told, a level of adjusting and compromise are required by both parties. There needs to be an equal responsibility that has to be shared and a ‘bodyguard’ like attitude where you are willing to take a bullet for your partner.
Our marriage, is nothing like that! In fact, at every turn when Mrs. B misplaces something or can’t remember where she put a document or set of keys, she immediately turns to me and says;
‘I gave it to you!’
Even if I have no use for the item, the generic and most commonly used scapegoat is ‘But I gave it to you!’ The scary thing is that she says it with such conviction and sincerity, you genuinely begin to wonder if she really did give it to you! Even when you ask when this phantom transaction took place, in her mind she’s created a scenario that makes you think twice. I think she’s guilty of Inception! Thankfully, practicality sets in and my response is;
‘But I wasn’t even at home!!!’
More often than not, we search for the item and find it in her drawer or handbag after which I’m met with a sheepish grin.Unfortunately, this does little to rectify the problem since she blames
me for the BP oil spill.
I can see it now, I’ll come home from work and look for the kids and when I ask where they are, I’ll be met with ‘But, I gave them to you!’

Marriage Tip 21:
If it isn’t your fault, it’s your fault!
Welcome to my fault… I mean my married life

About the author:

Born in Africa, Chandru grew up between Nigeria, India and the UK. With a Masters in International Business from the University of Westminster, he moved to New York where he worked as a Business Development Manager for three years. In 2002, he returned to Nigeria where he currently resides and runs a trading company. Chandru has been writing for Beyond Sindh ( since 2004 and has published numerous articles in the quarterly publication. His story entitled ‘The Love Letter’ won the Mirage Book short story contest and was published in an anthology titled Inner Voices in January 2009. His short story ‘Zero’ is scheduled to be published in the anthology Indian Voices towards the end of 2010.
In December 2009, Chandru’s first novel, ‘The Journey of Om’ was published in India by Cedar Books.
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