Or a curious auntyji caught you crossing limits under the staircase? Admit it, for it’s something that’s bound to happen. All of us have faced embarrassing sex moments that we would ideally like to forget.
“Don’t fret about imperfect moments in your sex life; just rejoice and hold your lover tight. Your ability to deal with embarrassing situations reflects the strength of your relationship. Real understanding is about being able to feel at ease with each other in awkward circumstances as well. Emotional presence and trust is the biggest aphrodisiac and the thrill can last a lifetime,” explains Renu Rai, a psychatrist.
We bring you a list of the most awkward sexual encounters and the ways you can avoid being caught…
Your mom cancels her trip and comes back home : Ravi Sharma, a student, shares his experience, “My ex and I had planned for a steamy night once my parents left for an official trip abroad for three days. I wanted to make her feel special. My parent’s bedroom was the spacious one, so I lit it up with candles and scented oils to create the perfect ambience for sex. In the attached bathroom, I prepared for a hot bubble bath together. The afternoon my parents left, my ex and I were in an over-the-session. We were busy in the bathroom when my mom and my aunt walked in on us in a compromising position. We were caught in an embarrassing embrace. My ex ran out with whatever clothes she could find, but post the episode my parents did not speak to me for four months.”
Expert talk : Pschologist, Poornima Sahni advises, “It’s natural for young lovers to indulge in such activities in the heat of the moment. However, if you are caught, it is difficult to get over the shock. What is important is to keep in mind that when you are caught by your parents, they experience the same kind of disillusionment as you. So it is important to talk it out with your family in a free and frank manner. Initially there would be a lot of anger, but your persistence would pay off after sometime.”
Dad overhears your phone sex : Sandhya Singh, a call centre executive, speaks about the time when she was caught getting hot and dirty over the phone by her father. “I thought everyone at my home was asleep. So when my boyfriend called, I started talking to him and we were actually being quite explicit. Unfortunately my dad chose that moment to get up for a drink of water. And I never realised that he was overhearing our candid conversation, until he made some sound to alert me about his presence. I just wanted to die that very moment.”
Expert talk : According to Sahni, phone sex isn’t a good idea. “Having phone sex can be quite thrilling, but you are making yourself vulnerable to a lot of things. It’s not just about your parents, but about your dignity. The guy/girl you are talking to may just record the conversation and circulate it amongst their peers. So in that case it’s just not about you, but also about your family. And most likely your parents are bothered about that more. So, its best to use a little thought before doing these things.”
Your sister catches you in the act : Sakshi Shekhar, a management student reveals,” Once I had called my boyfriend when my parents were out. My elder sister was sleeping in the next room. I assumed I had latched her door from outside, but due to some discrepancy on my part she caught us mid act, with my boyfriend literally on top. She immediately left and we ended being the worst enemies at that time for she kept on blackmailing me with it. She would threaten me that she would pass on this information to our parents and I had to do everything she said.”
Expert talk : Pschologist Dr Akash Makhija explains, “Siblings can be quite tortuous at times. If you ever get caught by your sibling, the best thing to do is to go up and confide everything to him/her. Siblings can become the greatest confidantes. Apologise and accept that it was a mistake. They will counsel you about it, keep a tab on your activities, but at the end of the day, they can end up becoming your best friend. And you never know, they might be saving you from some disastrous relationship.”
Your best friend’s brother sneaks on you : “Me and my friend had just watched a porn film and I was desperate to visit the loo. I was just too excited and forgot to shut the door behind me. Moreover, I just thought that my friend’s younger brother must be sleeping. Only to find him watching me suspiciously when I was trying to ease masturbate. And what’s more, he was actually recording all that on his cell. I got so nervous thinking it would be up on the net in no time. I had to bribe that kid so much to push him to delete that clip,” shares Prateek Sen, a medical student.
Expert talk : “When at a friend’s place, always remember to be careful of the members in the house. Also, you could be a bad influence on kids if they watch these sexually explicit acts. It’s best not to have such outings at anyone’s place lest you run into a situation like this. Even if you are sneaked upon, act naturally, like it’s a normal phenomenon, especially when kids are around. And if they insist on being naughty, you know you can always threaten them. However, never be harsh with children as it could lead to worse situations,” suggests Makhija.
Your strip video has been seen by your boyfriend’s parents : Ananya Rao, a chartered accountant, recalls, “My ex had this video of me stripping in his cell. I blindly trusted him at that time, so I never bothered to make him delete it. One day, he accidentally gave his mobile to his dad who scrolled through and saw my naughty show. Initially, I didn’t know what had happened, but when my ex informed me about the same, I was burning with shame. Till date, I avoid him and don’t think I would ever be able to face him.”
Expert talk : “Firstly, videos should never be made on the cell. The thrill won’t last long and this act is definitely much skewed. However, if such things occur, the first thing to do is to confess to either of your parents. Children think that parents never understand their dilemma. But it is important to understand that they are the ones who can pull you through drastic situations. They might be angry, disappointed and dejected initially, but they will prove out to be your biggest support,” explains Sahni.
Your boss walks into your misadventures : “I was having a fleeting affair with my boss’s girlfriend. Actually it was she who initiated the fling and we were in the act right on my boss’s table. He supposedly had been sent to another office in the city for that day. And we were having a ball right when I saw him banging his cabin door. I managed to cover up myself, but his girlfriend was in quite a state. He saw us in a compromising position and needless to say, I was fired the next day,” says Rajiv Choudhary, sales executive.
Expert talk : Makhija suggests, “The boss’s lover is a complete no-no. And even if you want to have some thrills at the cost of your boss, then this isn’t the way to gratification. Not only does it completely ruin your reputation, the organisation’s reputation is also at stake. If you want to have a fling with your boss’s girlfriend, do it away from the office vicinity. Yet it’s a too much risk and one should avoid falling into such traps.”
Can’t do away with peeping toms : Rohit Raj, an ad professional, talks about an episode when his neighbours decided to peep into his house. He says, “I was newly married then and was living with my wife. One day, we were having sex, when one of our neighbours walked in from the next door. And the next thing we know was that there were a number of eyes trying to peep into our room from their balconies. It wasn’t just plain irritating, but every time we passed them by, there were a lot of snide smiles and whispers followed by loose talk. We soon relocated to another house.”
Expert talk : “It is a norm that people today are more interested in what’s going on in the lives of others. Not just that, but when they get something to talk about, it makes for some interesting gossip,” says Sahni. She further suggests, “You need to take utmost care while deciding on a house. Try to know the neighbourhood and maintain friendly terms with your neighbours. If you find people who go out of their way to create trouble for you, issue a formal complaint against them. You can threaten them with police action too.”
When your experiments go bust : “I was cozying-up with my girlfriend at a friend’s wedding. There were a lot of people in the room but since we were under the same blanket, it wasn’t too much of a problem until in our excitement; we slipped and fell on the aunty sleeping on the floor. And she caught us almost undressed,” says Aman Mishra, a freelance writer.
Expert talk : Makhija explains, “Such things happen and all one can do is laugh about them. Ofcourse you can’t laugh it away right then, but it’s best not to take it seriously. If the situation gets too grave to handle, then all you can do is let things be as they are and allow them to fall into place gradually. However do take care that you don’t repeat such careless acts ever again in your life.”