The Ultimate Post-Breakup Hotness Manual

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This article was last updated on April 16, 2022

No truer words have ever been spoken than “breaking up is hard to do.” (Actually, we could think of a few other choice words, but let’s keep things PG). We’ve been there and we totally suggest some serious healing time. However, that doesn’t mean you need to sit around and wait to feel better — there are plenty of ways to lift your own spirits right now. 

Taking cues from celebs who’ve not only had their hearts broken, but have also had them splashed across Page Six, we’ve come up with 10 sensational ways to really get your groove back. Sure, it’s easier said than done, but we’ve got your back — and you’ve totally got this.


Make The Cut — We like to take many of our life cues from Reese Witherspoon, including what to do in the event that your slimy husband decides to start stepping out with another woman (How’d that work out for you, Ryan?). Instead of going into full-on PR lockdown, Reese went to see her stylist and did a little stepping out of her own, hitting the red carpet with a sexy new set of brow-grazing bangs, courtesy of stylist Mark Townsend. A new color or hairstyle can definitely help you with your moving-forward mantra. 

What better way to feel like a whole new woman than by undergoing a dramatic ‘do change? Just be sure you’re emotionally ready to handle making the chop — you don’t want to decide a pixie is the right new look for you while you’re still feeling emotionally vulnerable from your break-up. You will most likely wind up regretting that decision later — and growing out a cut can take forever. Take a bit of time to mull it over before you make a mad dash to your stylist.

Bust Out Of A Beauty Rut — Starting fresh doesn’t mean you have to totally reinvent your look — sometimes it’s as simple as just getting more adventurous with your makeup. Try out a pretty berry stain or dig that bronze shadow out of the bottom of your makeup drawer and attempt a metallic smoky eye. Wearing a makeup look that varies from your everyday routine can help you to look at yourself in a new light and make you feeldamn sexy in the process.
Get Pampered — Chances are, you’ve spent the past few years (or months or weeks — we don’t judge) tending to someone else’s needs while putting your desires on hold, lest you appear selfish. No more of that! Book a spa treatment, get a mani/pedi, or just pop a squat on your couch wearing nothing more than a robe and sea monster-green detox mask. Do whatever makes you feel special and taken care of — it’s a simple way to reconnect with yourself, get centered, and remind yourself of just how awesome you are.

Don’t Neglect The Pruning — We’ve all been there: realizing you honestly can’t remember the last time you dragged a razor over your legs, or sat in front of the mirror with your tweezers and tried to tame those overgrown brows. Women tend to get comfortable in a relationship and forget some of those little maintenance tasks that help us feel pretty (whatever they may be). Taking the time to address those annoying little primping tasks can actually go a long way toward feeling better and getting you ready to jump back into the dating pool. We know we feel ready to take on the world (or at least the singles bar scene) when our legs are sleek and our brows are shaped. Whatever the equivalent is for you, do it!


Fake A Flush — Studies have shown that when a woman blushes, it signifies to a man that she is attracted or aroused by him, which means faking a flush is a great, non-verbal way to communicate to guys that you are looking to make a connection. 

Swirl a touch of golden-pink blush on the apples of your cheeks to help give off that confident and approachable glow. While you’re at it, dab some shimmery champagne shadow in the inner corners of your eyes to make them appear more open — men are subconsciously drawn to women with larger eyes. Ta da! Now you look extra-hot and you didn’t even have to try that hard.


Sweat It Out — A break-up is like a detox for the soul — you’ve got to remove all the toxins and negativity from your life. While you’re at it, give your body a fresh start by visiting the sauna or a Turkish bath. Sweat helps release stored up toxins in your body, so you can feel fresh, healthy, and ready to start your new life.


Treat Yourself! — Splurge on something nice, especially if it’s something that you use every day like a gorgeous wallet, a lovely bag, or a sparkly piece of jewelry. Consider this a trade-in — all that money you would have had to spend on your ex’s birthday, holiday, and anniversary gifts now go to you!


Purge Your Closet — Unless you were 100% true to yourself all through your relationship, you’ve got an item here and there that you don’t love, that you wore to please your former mate. It’s time to get rid of those abominations. Whether it’s that skirt he liked or the sunglasses she’d always borrow, it’s time to give ’em a new home at your local consignment shop.


Pile On The Color — If you’ve never been a color person, this is the time to start experimenting. If you’ve always loved color, this is the time to start piling it on. Cheerful, bright hues are attention grabbing in the best of ways. Keep this in mind when you’re coat shopping, looking for a new party dress, or getting ready for a (single-lady) evening out.


Only Wear Your Nice Underwear — The power of a beautiful set of lingerie is not to be underestimated, and taking care to get dressed with care starting from your skivvies will start off a positive chain of events for the rest of your day. From your foundation up, you’ll feel sexier and more confident (not to mention ready for any occasion where you might get to show it all off — yowza!).

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Designed by Gabriela Alford

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