Finding Shangri La: Modesty Trumps All When It Comes To Success

In Finding Shangri La at the corporate level, we know how important it is to present a confident appearance.  We’ve got to speak like we’re educated, behave like we’ve written the book on social amenities and look like a million.  How do we do that while remaining humble and modest?  If we’re too humble, it’s easy to get run over by more aggressive types.  Like the old song by Roger Miller says "You can’t roller skate through a buffalo herd".  Meaning that you have to stay in the correct flow if you want to  not get run over by more assertive, aggressive coworkers.  Going on an interview is tricky also.  No one likes a ‘know it all’, or a bragger, yet appearing like a wilted and waning wall flower is a sure sign that you won’t hold up under the types of pressure that the corporate world can wield.  It seems that in a recent survey, those employees that answered that they were modest and humble were looked upon more favorably by their employers, in the journal Personality and  Individual Differences.  Where’s the balance so that you can look alert, knowledgeable, sociable and amenable in the business’ milieu?  If during an interview you are asked specific questions about how you handled projects to create success, defer to the team you worked with previously or to the good management in your previous employment, rather than using the work "I".  Emphasis that you enjoy helping to bring projects to a successful conclusion by sharing your knowledge, rather than making it appear that you alone made it happen.  You can celebrate those victories privately in your Journey To Shangri La "kitab" or notebook by writing about it and bragging all you want.  You can even take out a co-worker or two to a lunch to celebrate—in appreciation for their support of you.  In this way, you remain, humble, modest AND successful AND happy.  Believe……..
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Acharya Sri Khadi Madama is available for "Finding Shangri La" Workshops, Consulting and Coaching to help you apply these principles in your personal and professional life, based on the concepts in her book, Finding Shangri La: Seven Yoga Principles for Creating Success & Happiness, available at Barnes & Noble, Borders Books , and your favorite bookstore.

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